“Alcoholics Anonymous helps millions ” they say. Really? I say… AA has hurt Millions. AA is shrinking down to 800,000 from 1.2 million

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Today I was in my little local Nail salon. I have been going there for 22 years. A small unassuming place filled with a few sweet wonderful funny woman from Vietnam. A small family business.

Normally there are just regular ladies there. But today I was running late and had to call them and change my appointment, so as usual they accommodated me with “no problem”!   When I got there I had to call a blogger in Chicago and left him a message. I never talk on my phone there. I go there to relax and get away from my work. “its a pampering lovely hour usually.

When I arrived it was very quiet and the one lady in the salon was finishing up and  getting ready to leave, and over heard me talking about interviewing a judge. So when I got off the phone she told me her husband was a judge.” What was my film about” she asked, and we had a nice talk. She asked me for my card and said she wanted to call me later.

Now during this talk a couple of woman came in and over heard us. Well it turned out they were both Lawyers.lawyers fightingpic

One was a Federal prosecutor. Well, can I tell you…this became  is a serious sparring fest. One big debate on how great AA was and dare I criticize this fabulous institution! I did not back down and the shit these two women said to me was so f**king nuts It made me think I may need to buy a gun and wear a bullet proof vest.

WHAT THE FUCK is wrong with these people. They are not even in AA and they are defending it like  a jealous woman.

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The next time I’m at the nail salon and someone asks me what I do for a living…I’m going to say I’m a cop or I work for the FBI !!! LOL …Just kidding.  controversy I’ll just say I can’t talk about it…its way too controversial. Let them pay and see it in the theatre. There they can throw tomatoes.

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Mark Burchell Owner of DOORWAY To Recovery (Sober Living Homes) Sexually Preys on New Young Woman and their MOMS

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Posted: 05/02/2013

Farmington Hills, Mich. – Recovery homes are supposed to be safe havens for addicts to heal after they get out of rehab.

But instead of helping addicts rebuild their lives, a local sobriety leader is accused by several women of preying on them.

He’s been hailed as a saint in the recovery community.  Just two months ago, Mark Burchell won the Michigan Drug Court Hero Award.

Burchell runs a program called Doorway to Recovery, but is this addiction guru really such a hero?

And are his “recovery homes” really just a doorway to vulnerable women?

It turns out in Michigan, there is no oversight for recovery homes, like Burchell’s. That means there’s really no one to go to for help if something goes wrong while you’re living in a sobriety home.

“I was going there to make my life better, and it got worse,” said Tiffany Hazel. Read full story here:

Read more: http://www.wxyz.com/dpp/news/local_news/investigations/women-say-they-went-to-local-sobriety-leader-for-help-instead-say-they-found-trouble#ixzz2SOgjUGan

 

How disgusting is that? But  we in Los Angeles know some other oldtimers doing this here in Cali for years and getting away with it. When will they come forward to ABC NEWS in Los Angeles and speak out.

Well this fantastic young woman and her mother spoke out. Thank you ladies for your courage.

THANK YOU ABC NEWS FOR REPORTING ON THIS IMPORTANT STORY!!!

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Are Alcoholics Anonymous Sponsors Out of Control? Good and Bad AA Sponsors. What Kind Did You Have? What Kind of Sponsor Were You?

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This is Chris Rock from the play “Mother F####ker With A Hat” , where  he plays an AA sponsor. I hear it’s a non pro AA play about 13 stepping. Now playing at The South Coast Repertory in Costa Mesa. I will let you know what I think after I see it. It is set to play in Los Angeles soon, but it’s already sold out.

I have been thinking about this subject ever since blogger “illbefree” arrived here and began posting. So here is my story in a nutshell.

My first sponsor was a very good person by the time I met her. Her name was Mary. She  was a big strong hawaiian woman who was the only person who confronted my 13 stepper asshole, way back in 1975. Yet, even she gave me bad advice a few times. Most of the time she loved me like her daughter. I was a teen. 🙂 There are many things she did that made me a better person. She surely made me laugh! But she made her mistakes too.

First off, one day we were sitting at CoCo’s on Kalakaua with Big Richard and Emile, my AA buddies who were both 20 years my senior. We were sipping on some hot Won Ton soup and coffee and it was a chilly balmy hawaiian evening after we went into Oahu Prison, where we went every Wed, bringing an AA meeting to convicted felons who were in there for life. I’m sure I said something stupid, because then Mary turned to me and

said … ” you are sick, sick, sick”. Now I was 19 and I snapped my head around and said ” What did you just say to me…..I didn’t join AA for people to call me names” …..Her face got very serious and she fell silent. Big Richard gave me that  look ….like  ..”WOW you got some balls kid”. So from then on, she treaded lightly.

…more  of the bad stuff.

She told me to marry my 1st husband, that it was me that was too afraid. She was wrong.  My instincts were right. So why didn’t I listen to them.

She told me that it was my fault when a korean mobster newcomer with 90 days ripped me off for $700. …all the money I had in the world. I should have know better. I wanted to punch her in the face…and I didn’t … but I had her on a pedastill. It was then she became human and was never again looked at as a saint. But I did have another older sponsor who at the same time told me to go after the guy and get my money back which I did.  Her name was Zoe. Thank God for Zoe. She told me to be sure and not to go to too many meetings. That was NOT HEALTHY…”go to the movies, go dancing on Saturday night with young people” she said. Now I see how different AA was then. No one was telling me to go to 90 meetings or even to go everyday.

Here’s some of the good stuff…many times on op the trolls gave me shit for why I stayed so long, but I never felt safe to post it there.

She told me to pusue being a singer, play guitar and take acting.

She supported me in moving to California to pursue my dreams.

She loved me like her own daughter. I seriously needed a mothers love. I never quite bonded with mine, although things are better 30 years later:)

Her whole hawaiian family embraced me and Harry loved me like a daughter.

When other AA women said catty shit about my figure she defended me and told them I worked hard for rock hard abs. Which I no longer have ! LOL I’ll post my real pic later from back then:)))))great abs

She kept trying to get me to go back to school. I was always too afraid until years later.

I know you know that I love to bash AA now, but I did have some good woman sponsors.

Maybe this is why I stayed so long. I even went  to AL ANON for a few years but I picked a sponsor who was an atheist.

In the end when I was uncovering the crap about AA , one of my sponsors,  actually suggested to me that I should sue AA. She also told me she never beleived in being powerless or even that she believed she was an alcoholic. She just wanted to quit drinking and she liked the ladies meetings. Again I was shocked. But this last AA sponsor was so kind and real and non AA like that I felt I needed to post about her. Although she was wrong with advice about my son I had the intuition to know that I didn’t believe in rehab for my kids. And I told her straight up, ” I don’t believe in rehab. Its bullshit” . She was very respectful of me and my opinion.

I  I think most people need professional help and not AA sponsors ….yet we read that even judges ask this question in some of the stories we have published on the blogs. Can you imagine if the judges knew how nuts some of these sponsors are?

Now, recently we have a blogger here who has had hideous and bullying sponsors. I know illbefree has done losts of telling here, but I thought it was an important part of why so MANY people are leaving AA today….and that it  is the cult and controlling aspect. The bully’s and the BS.

Now what kind of sponsor was I ?…I like to think I was different. A rebel with a cause.erin brockivich pic A woman who shared her own experience and really tried to stay away from giving advice. True or not, I hope that I helped more then I ever hurt…  LOL   I was a  woman who had a lot of great therapy and read tons of self help books.  A woman who did rage work and a woman who already thought alot of the literature was BS and outdated. I told sponsee’s about Fein Shui tips, meditations tips, therapy tips from my therapist, how body work was essential and exercise were so important to my sanity and happiness. Yet still if I look back I made a few mistakes too.:(

I once told a woman I couldn’t work with her because when she told me she didn’t believe in GOD. …I was at a loss for words. I knew nothing about other alternatives like Smart Recovery, Rational Recovery, Lifering, Women for Sobriety, Moderation, Hams Harm Reduction, or drink link moderation.  I always looked at this as a spiritual program” OMG… looking back I am so embarrassed by this . Thats truly how naive I was.  I feel good that I called these people and said Im sorry. And Not the AA  way. I could really see how crazy stepper I was. It was hard to take.  To see that perhaps I was in a cult for all those years. WOW!

So please illbefree and anyone else join in…. By the posts we see here and on other anti AA blogs.  I am beginning to think more and more this is a huge problem in AA right now. Back in the 70’s and 80’s sponsors were much more laid back and not so “I’m in Charge”!

I see this is bigger or equal to  the the sexual predation problem. What do you think?