NEW to LEAVING AA and FACEBOOK- Need help deprogramming ?

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HI and Welcome ! There has been a real surge in FACEBOOK activity with ex AA members. Please join us if you want on FACEBOOK in the deprogramming page. I know some dont want to let their identity be known so we are keeping this blog going.

It is a different kind of communication.

No more hiding the truth about AA and NA anymore !

How does AA and NA kill people?

josh_killer stevenhayes_pic_killerWhen I first heard this said, I was shocked . It was January 2011 on Big Johns Radio station in Daytona Beach, FL. One of the callers , had called in and said these exact words.

But what do they mean to me today some 5 years later. I know how AA and NA are killing people.

1. When a Doctor or a Pilot, Nurse or lawyer is extorted to AA for years on end. When A pilot has to play the AA game. ( AA was intended to be a place where the person came to AA on their own) some kill themselves.

2. When members drink or drug again and are shamed into they failed the program ( they didn’t work it hard or good enough ) ” Perhaps you need to do more service….is d=said very often. Also not true. But many cant bear the thought of going back and raising their hands and starting over.

3. Many are told by a sponsor or a stupid AA member that taking SSRI’s makes you not sober or clean. ( Utter nonsense) who do these people think they are ? Doctors?

4. Many are sexually harassed, raped or their children are molested. When the victim goes to the group, the groups says ” well, whats your part in it.( Victims have no part in people victims) Thats what Predators love about AA

5. The facts of what I now understand is that AA fails about 90-95 % who go.

6. There are violent offenders being sent to AA, and through Domestic Violence this leads to murder. Sometimes they have long criminal backgrounds.  ( as for the case in the Petite Murders, they met in AA and then they targeted this family) I have posted the killers mug shots on this page at the top.

7. Suicide is a big killer in AA.

8. I think AA and NA are a huge cause in with Opiates deaths currently . Say a heroin addict goes to a meeting. He or she is told they can never drink a beer or smoke pot. They look around the room and see these creeps or assholes and think— GOD— I’d rather shoot heroin and or die then come to these meetings for the rest of my life.

9. AA can create binge drinking. SOUTH PARK did a great episode about this.

HotDocs in Toronto, Canada- making connections with International Distributors

hotdocs picI arrived last night around 7 pm to a cooler, yummy Canada. The weather feels wonderful compared to overly sunny, southern California.

I am glad to be here to connect with Distributors, Broadcasters and other Doc film makers world wide.

HotDocs is the biggest Film festival and Market in North America.

No The 13th Step did not make it into the film festival, ( I was dealing with Breast Cancer) but it will be seen by over 25 Distributors and important decision makers on a one to one basis. It’s a short trip this time, but productive and I may get to see a film or two. Best thoughts to you all!

Monica aka  massive

Practical Recovery is Hosting a Free Screening of The 13th Step – Tuesday -April 26, 2016 in San Diego CA>

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Thanks to Tom Horvath and Practical Recovery there will be a Free Community Screening.

Monica Richardson – Director /filmmaker will be there to answer questions after the film.

See you then!

If you want to host a Free Community Screening in your town contact us.

Monica

https://www.practicalrecovery.com/event/13th-stepfree-screening-the-13th-step/

Bethlehem Police Officer Sues over being forced to join Alcoholics Anonymous. I Love this GUY!

A Bethlehem police officer who was dismissed following a DUI charge, then ordered to be reinstated, is now suing the city after its expert ruled he is an alcoholic and is unfit to return to the police department.

Richard Hoffman is neither an alcoholic, nor a recovering alcoholic, and has never received a medical diagnosis as such, according to his lawsuit filed in Northampton County Court last month.

Bethlehem, however, is using a forensic psychologist’s opinion to brand him as an alcoholic who cannot perform his duties as a police officer, the suit says.

Hoffman “was, in essence, terminated twice without just cause,” according to the lawsuit.

Since the city regards Hoffman as a recovering alcoholic, which he denies, the city should consider him as a person with a disability covered under the federal Americans with Disabilities Act, the suit says.

Under the statute, Hoffman should have been allowed to complete the recommended treatment before being determined unfit to return to the police department, the lawsuit says.

Hoffman’s attorney, Donald Russo, could not be reached for comment on Wednesday afternoon.

Attorney Susan McDonough is representing Bethlehem in the matter, and filed a notice Wednesday to have the suit moved to federal court. McDonough declined to comment about the suit.

Hoffman was charged with drunken driving after crashing into a parked vehicle and damaging two others in August 2013 in the city. His blood-alcohol content was 0.16, according to authorities.

Hoffman was accepted into a first-time offender’s program and the DUI was erased from his criminal record.

Bethlehem City Council voted unanimously in March 2014 to fire Hoffman, but an arbitrator ruled last year that the city only had cause to discipline him, not fire him.

According to Hoffman’s suit, the arbitrator ruled the city could only discipline him with a 25-day suspension. Hoffman was to be reinstated, but the city had the right to require Hoffman to submit, and successfully complete, a fitness-for-duty evaluation.

Hoffman claims the city never required other officers with DUI charges, who were also suspended 25 days, to receive the same evaluation.

The arbitrators ruling “reflected unlawful bias in the form of an utterly unsubstantiated belief that (Hoffman) was suffering from alcoholism,” the suit says.

As part of Hoffman’s evaluation, Dr. Frank Dattilio submitted a report last May that found Hoffman is an alcoholic who could possibly relapse, and is unfit to return to as a patrolman, according to court papers.

Dattilio made recommendations for Hoffman before he be allowed to return as a full-time police officer:

  • Six months sobriety before being allowed to return to light duty.
  • An additional six months of sobriety before being allowed to return to his patrol unit, with the recommendation of random urine tests.
  • Joining an on-going recovery program, such as Alcoholics Anonymous.
  • Dattilio’s continued evaluation of Hoffman’s complying with the recommendations.

http://www.dailynewsx.com/news/bethlehem-police-officer-fired-following-dui-sues-city-82645.html

Drunk Driver kills person in Accident says AA didn’t work for him

Driver in fatal Franklin County crash given 7 years

  • By NEIL HARVEY, BH News Service
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  • For most of his life, alcohol was a part of each day, Ronald Lee Bowker said Monday in Franklin County Circuit Court.

    The 52-year-old electrician said he tried Alcoholics Anonymous but claimed it just didn’t work for him. He sought medication that might curb his thirst but said his doctor wouldn’t prescribe it. He told a probation officer his father had always been a heavy drinker and, before that, his grandparents, too.

    “I just couldn’t get away from it,” Bowker recalled.

    His brand of choice was Icehouse — a lager with a percentage of alcohol by volume that is somewhat higher than most domestic beers — and he told his probation officer he usually drank five or six 24-ounce cans every night.

    Bowker was driving drunk on the afternoon of April 24 when his 1999 Chevrolet Silverado crossed the centerline on Burnt Chimney Road and collided head-on with a 2011 Ford Crown Victoria. The driver of the Ford, 58-year-old Trinkle Lee Cook of Moneta, was killed. Read full story here.

http://www.thefranklinnewspost.com/news/driver-in-fatal-franklin-county-crash-given-years/article_efd2e238-e54b-11e5-8f7c-2732ec823498.html

Hopefully one day soon- Americans will know about Vivitrol , Natrexone and other non AA help that would help people addicted to alcohol. Another life would be saved and this man could also have a life free from addiction

SMART RECOVERY, SOS, LIFERING, WOMEN FOR SOBRIETY, Moderation Management, The Sinclair Method, Hams Harm Reduction . These are free options.

NON 12 step paid treatment list: Practical Recovery, in San Diego,  St Judes Retreats in New York State, The Goodman Center in Knoxville, Tenn., Alternatives in Los Angeles, Center for Optimal Living in NYC run by Andrew Tatarsky, Center for Motivation and Chnage run by Jeff Foote, Books by Lance Dodes, Books by Stanton Peele, Book by Hank Hayes You’ve Been Lied to. Book by Amy Lee Coy, FROM DEATH DO I PART>

Gabrielle Glaser and Monica Richardson give Alcoholics Anonymous a run for its money- a low rating for Healing and minus 1 star rating for safety around alcohol overuse issues and here’s why…

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Once again the article in The Atlantic by journalist Gabrielle Glaser  http://gabrielleglaser.com/articles/ was trending on twitter yesterday, then back on to The ATLANTIC Article http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2015/04/the-irrationality-of-alcoholics-anonymous/386255/written last year about how AA is not the safest or smartest place to go for any kind of REAL healing from Alcohol overuse issues.

For me, a long time ex member who was 13 stepped more then once as a teen and GOT OVER IT…..and just lived with it, realized— thanks to GOD,  my good brain and my sons, that AA was full of S**t …..yea I said it. Full of shit. No science, No research, and lots of religious rhetoric. Many MUSTS and do’s and don’ts and ” better be “of Service”  or else you’ll get drunk….kinda crap….but after 36 years with no booze -I walked away a very disenchanted camper.

Thanks to Gabrielle Glaser who documented the work I did  in 2009 -2010, my last two years in AA ( in Chapter Six of her book  HER BEST KEPT SECRET ) before I left in 2011, about Safety, sexual harassment, sexual predatory crimes and 13 Stepping,  I felt validated and not alone.

In her book Her Best Kept Secret, a New York Times Bestseller, Gabrielle Glaser explained to me and the world how alcohol was once a lovely thing to enjoy in The WHITE HOUSE by our First President, George Washington  &  MRS WASHINGTON, and her many guests.  I learned that most men, women and children were drinking hard cider  necessary until we figured out how to have  clean water.

Americans were neither puritanical or Prohibitionist  from the start…that came later—- along with the non drinking Billionaire Rockefeller, and  the famous AA Creator/founder , —–drunkard, scam artist and womanizer—-Bill Wilson and a few other religious fanatics like Frank Buchman who started the cult The Oxford groups. ( The place Bill Wilson really got sober).

Many decades passed before Courts and judges shoved millions of Americans into a lay person, unsupervised cult like pods of nobody’s for a Drunk driving ticket, a violent offense or whatever floats ones boat today —where EVERYONE says ””OH… I’m an Addict “”””” poor me.  I can’t control myself…blah blah blah.

It does make me wonder where those bad ass pioneering Americans with lots of tough skin, tenacity  and self control have disappeared to?

In her book, HER BEST KEPT SECRET – I also learned  that a Heroin kit could be bought in a Sears & Roebuck Catalog. She then explained  how women’s drinking was on the rise, why… and how were these ladies getting help. Maybe horse therapy in a fancy spa for 50 K was not enough.

Glaser never a problem drinker herself,  began investigating innocently at first, found her way down the same rabbit hole as me, and through Dee Dee Stout, a Harm Reduction Therapist in San Fransisco, who appeared in an episode of “PENN & TELLER Bullshit”  ——- introduced us and…       we met. 🙂 The rest is history.

There are times in life where I have met people, Gabrielle being one of them, that I now feel I could not have gone on with my film and my work without their help and their own driven path to seek out why AA and 12 step controls 95 % of all rehab in America . And why was it infested and controlling our Drug Courts  and the DUI system still to this day?

Her early research brought her into the halls of New York AA Headquarters where an employee made a joke about 13 stepping not realizing that someone might take notice.

Katie Couric heard us because of Gabrielle Glaser and her Book. CBS 48 Hours – episode THE SOBER TRUTH heard and told the story of the Karla Brada Murder because of her.

SO this is my ode to Gabrielle Glaser, in that her fierce voice and criticism was needed, and still needed to tell a very dark true story about what really goes on in those meetings and culture.

Gabrielle being one of the first persons to get the most articles written, criticizes what needed to be done, unlike some of us simple ex stepper bloggers could not get one journalist to hear our voices or write those stories.

The courageous women and men who we both met and interviewed has broken open a dirty little secret that felt it was untouchable, above the law and better then medicine and science. Yes – I am talking about Alcoholics Anonymous. It is not a government agency!

I highly recommend her book for those leaving AA, those thinking about leaving and those who are professionals who have been recommending it to their clients for decades.

For me —-she is my hero—-she is my friend— she is a great writer and without her—- we might…still be on yahoo groups or www.stinkin- thinkin.com  —anti AA groups fighting about if AA could ever be sued or was AA a cult or not- boy how sad that would be.

With dozens of anti AA blogs and ANTI FACEBOOK pages Gabrielle Glaser has managed to amass a long list of legitimate Newspaper, Magazine articles , radio show interviews and the Network news, Television shows to uncover, discover and discard the lie… that

AA is the one and only …and the last house on the block—-

which clearly we know now—-it is not true. Nor is it safe.

Your friend,

Monica

Murder charges against rehab center are a first in California

FINALLY- Thanks to the coverage in the Los Angeles Times .

by Paloma EsquivelContact Reporter

Murder charges against rehab center are a first in California

Gary Benefield was in rough shape when a driver from the substance abuse treatment company A Better Tomorrow met him at the San Diego airport in 2010.

It was the day before his 53rd birthday. The longtime smoker had recently been hospitalized for pneumonia and was tethered to an oxygen tank, which he had relied on for years. He was seeking treatment for a drinking problem and had signed himself up for a round of detox and rehab.

Sometime that night, he collapsed by his bed at a Murrieta residential facility and died. The house manager, who was supposed to check on him regularly, had fallen asleep. Benefield’s body was found in the morning.

The family sued, reaching an out-of-court settlement.

What came next sent a jolt through California’s large drug and alcohol rehabilitation industry. The state attorney general’s office pursued second-degree murder charges against A Better Tomorrow and four of its employees — the first time in California history that a corporation had been accused of murder, according to the facility’s attorneys.

Kelly Strader, a professor at Southwestern Law School, said the attorney general’s office may have filed the charges as a warning to treatment facilities “that you’d better clean up your act. We’re going to take this very seriously.”

A 2012 report by the California Senate Office of Oversight and Outcomes, which outlined the four deaths at A Better Tomorrow, among others, said that the state had failed to police treatment homes, “with deadly results.”

http://www.latimes.com/local/crime/la-me-rehab-murder-charge-20160228-story.html

WHY are you leaving AA? Is it a cult- What is brainwashing- What are key red flags that make a group a toxic group, organization or…yes … a cult?

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Early on in my work, I was still in AA and I did not think AA was a cult. Haters on Stink-thinkin.com   www.stinkin-thinkin.com were giving me crap for trying to make things safer in AA.” ( 2009 -2010)    ” Leave” — they said.    “You are brainwashed” —-they said.

It took a few years of blogging, two years as a GSR, (General

Service Rep) that I began to see and hear in meetings things I had never noticed before. Finally after reading many books like , Addiction Proof Your Child by Stanton Peele, The workbook from SMART Recovery,  AMY Lee Coys  book FROM DEATH DO I PART,  http://www.amazon.com/Death-Do-Part-Myself-Addiction/dp/069200971X/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8 I began filling my head with Non AA rhetoric. Here is a list of books I recommend http://leavingaa.com/recommended-books/

Last July I met a screenwriter who introduced me to Rachel Bernstein   http://www.blogtalkradio.com/saferecovery/2016/02/09/rachel-bernstein-cult-deprogramming-expert–therapist and has been interviewed on my radio show .She is an expert in Cult awareness and deprogramming and with help getting a loved one out of a cult, or an abusive one on one relationship.

All cults have control tactics.

1. AA says ” only we can help you ” —RED FLAG—- there is not such thing as “ONLY WE CAN HELP YOU”

2. AA says- :you must come to meetings forever or you will die, go to jail or go insane ” Really— who are they????? How would they know this—–are they GOD—- are they psychic? NO…they are not.

As time passed and continued my www.blogtalkradio.com/saferecovery I realized that in ripping up the big Book, I saw that AA , and the big book , when it was written has never – I mean Never been vetted, researched or updated.

3. AA says- GOD COULD AND WOULD IF HE WERE SOUGHT….sought about what?

If it were a disease ( which it is not ) why would you being going to a church basement for help for a BRIAN DISEASE, by praying a , talking and asking strangers who are not Doctors for advice. To top it off, its not scientific, or medical advice. Its quasi cult arm chair psychobabble.

DISGUSTING AA members harasses blogger Massive while recovery from Serious Disease and surgery.

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I have deleted most comments, but they are in the trash bin and can be resurrected at any time.

 

I -as many of you know have  been dealing with serious CANCER since September. I have just had another surgery. Although I usually don’t talk about my health here. But your comments are so telling of who and what you trolls and current AA members are I have decided to address it.

SO FUCK OFF with your lack of compassion not only for me but Karla’s parents whose child was murdered, Karen’s 4 year old son was raped by an AA man in an AA meeting and Brittany was a victim of Drug Sex Slavery IN Kentucky.  ALL highlighted in my film .

I do not give  a shit what you think.

Don’t  you ever write here again. I will go to the police with cyber bullying when I am well enough to drive my car. If its crosses State borders they it becomes an FBI case. SO —-

For those who are new here…putting a blog into moderation just means you can write something but it wont appear till I approve it.

God Bless all of you who are my friends and have supported me.

The rest of you assholes—- I know your kind from my 36 years in your stupid AA what ever the f**k you wanna call it.