The Guardian and Jon Stewart mention The 13th Step and Monica Richardson in today’s Article


WOW is this a nice surprise. I don’t think I could ask for a nicer present then this one a sleepy, Sunday morning in California.

Jon Stewart,  who was an AA member for 14 years, left AA almost 2 years ago and we began to speak on Skype and through email. I had him on my radio show Blog talk radio Safe recovery , and we finally met in person in May when we screened the film in London at The Mayfair  . It was like meeting an old friend from AA  who was now an ex stepper. We had many thoughts in common and some of his experiecne was very different from mine. He still feels AA saved his life and I never felt like that. I feel like I saved my life. But none the less, we agree on 90 % of everything else.

He is a super nice guy with alot of important stuff to say about change around alcohol over use…ect…

Here is the link. Please go and speak your mind. Love you !!!

Andrew Tatarsky PhD- Gets Interview in Health & Lifestyle – Harm Reduction 30 years of Experience

Great to see more publicity where Andrew Tatarsky gets a nice write up.

Dr. Andrew Tatarsky, PhD, founder and director of the Center for Optimal Living based in New York City, has over 30 years experience in the addiction and mental health field. He tells us why abstinence is not the total solution for problematic behaviors and why we should provide care and proper treatment for patients instead of incarcerating them. Mylene C. Orillo files this report


We all go through life’s difficulties, losses, and challenges, while some people can handle it perfectly well, some turn to alcohol and substance abuse to ease their pain and loneliness and it knows no age and gender.


A 74-year-old man has lost his partner from heart attack a number of years ago. He never remarried but has lost a number of friends to death as well. He retired from a teaching job so there was an accumulation of losses that contributed to his excessive drinking to the point of black out several times a week.


A 19-year-old college student had a very mixed drug use problem with a lot of marijuana, heroin, cocaine, and pills. His drug use had escalated after a staph infection that nearly killed him so he had to leave college. While recuperating, he began using an increasing amount of drugs.


Dr. Andrew Tatarsky, PhD, founder and director of the Center for Optimal Living based in New York City revealed that these are some examples of how their patients cope with loneliness and medical illness.  Read full story here and please share on all blogs and social media and twitter.

The COST of the LEAVING AA blog and more ….

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Hi everyone. Did coffee every look and smell like this at an AA meeting ?

Well its that time of year where I will be paying for my server.  …Yes I have my OWN server to keep up with the millions of hits we get each year. So far we have over 4.8 million.

If you want to contribute we thank you . Mahalo plenty.

….Thank you for any contribution.


Sober Man Kills Three in Colorado Springs- Shoots person out side Sober Living home as well.

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Well its happened.

I was just saying to my husband the other day, that I was concerned this sort of thing would eventually happen. Either in or out side a meeting. This…was out side and he intentionally shot a person out side the sober living home.

Mother of shooter had written about his temper, struggles with sobriety

By Sadie Gurman, The Associated Press Posted: Nov 02, 2015 11:30 PM ETLast Updated: Nov 03, 2015 1:48 AM ET

The man who fatally shot three people during a rampage through the streets of Colorado Springs was a recovering alcoholic who posted an online video two days earlier expressing displeasure with his father for allegedly falling under the sway of a particular preacher — but gave no indication of the violence to come.

Authorities on Monday identified the gunman as 33-year-old Noah Jacob Harpham, who lived just steps from where his first victim was slain on Saturday.

Witnesses said Harpham had a rifle in one hand and a revolver in the other when he first killed a bicyclist. He then calmly walked less than a mile and fatally shot two women on the porch of a sobriety house. Harpham was then killed in a gunbattle with police.

A motive for the downtown shootings in broad daylight was unknown, and Harpham left few clues in blog posts and on social media.

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During a visit to his family’s Colorado Springs home years ago, he drank too much, became angry and “exploded,” Kopp said. His mood had become “so toxic it was scary.”

His mother and stepfather urged Harpham to move in with them. In Colorado Springs, she said, he found work as an insurance agent and met with an Alcoholics Anonymous sponsor regularly.

( AA and all its trappings failed this man) Angry already- in an environment where AA members tell each other you cant “afford to get angry” ——“What’s your part in it ” ——-“You need to work a better program “——“you are broken for life”——“only we can help you —–you can’t help yourself on this one buddy ” ——–You need to come to these meetings forever” —-

I believe that not only drugs and drink are killing our youth- its AA and NA. Here’s why …If you are told at a super young age that you are broken forever- you too may say —“fuck it ” why bother—– and shoot that heroin one more time. Only now its too strong so you may take too much.

Kim Richards Sentenced in Target Shoplifting Case: Community Service, Probation and Alcoholics Anonymous

10/28/2015 AT 04:30 PM EDT

Kim Richards can officially move forward from her August arrest.

The former Real Housewives of Beverly Hills star was sentenced Wednesday in her Target shoplifting case.

A Los Angeles judge order that Richards, 51, complete 300 hours of community service, three years probation and 52 Alcoholics Anonymous meetings, according to court documents obtained by PEOPLE. TMZ was the first to report the news.

She must also “continue treatment and follow recommendations for treatment including drug rehabilitation, therapy and medications,” according to the papers.

The 13th Step- An award winning Documentary is available to Buy on DVD, for a LIMITED TIME ONLY!


The 13th Step is for sale on DVD ….NOW. We will be fulfilling all Indiegogo Campaign rewards as well. DVD ‘s are being made this week. Shipping will begin as soon as we receive them. Thank you for all your support. Please share this good news on all your pages, blogs, twitter and with freinds.  We will also come to certain cities to do screenings and do Q & A’s.

Another Doctor Forced to attend Alcoholics Anonymous Meeting against his will and in violation of his1 st Amendment Rights

Local News State suspends Iowa optometrist’s license for 30 days October 11, 2015 15:29 CDT CEDAR FALLS, Iowa (AP) — Iowa will suspend a Cedar Falls’ optometrist’s license for 30 days this fall because his alcohol use violated a previous agreement with regulators. The Waterloo-Cedar Falls Courier reports ( ) the suspension is part of an agreement regulators made with Mark Davis. His suspension will start Oct. 26. The Iowa Board of Optometry says recent tests showed Davis was using alcohol. That violated a 2013 agreement he made after being arrested on suspicion of driving while under the influence of drugs. Davis will also pay a $250 fine and serve four years of probation and chemical testing. He’ll also have to attend Alcoholics Anonymous meetings.

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WHY is everyone told they cant drink alcohol as a part of a deal. Don’t they know that prohibition ended in 1933?

Kim Richards Sentenced to 52 Sessions of Alcoholics Anonymous Meetings, Community Labor for Hotel Arrest


I really feel sorry for this lady. I bet she has no idea that there are no such things as AA   “Sessions” I hope she finds out. There are only AA meetings that are run by no one who is trained  and no one will warn her that AA meetings are not safe. That a man there may be a rapist who is getting away with it because of the Anonymity feature.

WOMEN Stabbed after AA meeting in Mesa, Arizona

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How Many Violent Offenders are sent to Alcoholics Anonymous …

For a while I have not been posting NEWS stories like I use to. But I think its important to Document these facts. Let’s be clear….I would not spend this kind of time and money ( yes it costs me money to run this blog…about $200.. a month. ) Nor would I have made a film to just criticize AA.  Although it does need alot of remodeling, and updo of sorts and critiquing in my opinion.

Violent and Sex offenders are court ordered daily into AA and NA meetings as if they were some regulated government agency. Recently, I was speaking to a man who challenged the fact that these violent offenders are really being court ordered to AA. I did put about 15 News articles in the film and he watched the film, but still the question.

I have so many stories in my file drawer not just on my computer that I began to stop printing them . We felt we put enough in the film The 13th Step. I think I will begin to collect these stories again. I made a film and did a radio show because Kristine and Saundra Cass were murdered by a man the courts knew was already violent…and they sent him to AA.

Karla Brada was murdered in 2011 by another …Eric A Earle who was sent to AA by Los Angeles courts over 55 times , over 22 years. Jaro , her mother retrieved all the records to prove it. We have it documented in the film .

So back to the point…I would not waste  my time,  my life,  and 4 years to make a film + all the thousands of dollars it has taken to finish a film , get it in 15 or so festivals and have a radio show , just to take on AA.

Yea I don’t like it anymore. Yes- I think its super culty.  Yes, I think its antiquated, Yes- I think it’s a mind fuck, yes- I think it keeps men’s ego and self esteem low. Yes – I  think woman are abusive to new female members they sponsor. Yes-  I think the Big Book  needs to be burned. Yes- I think I wasted years of my life there. Yes- I was preyed on by asshole creepy men. Yes- I think its DANGEROUS, yes I think AA in NY has known all of this for decades. Yes- I know pedophiles go there to prey on mothers with small children. Yes-  yes I think AA members who are losers make money with sober living places. Yes-  I think AA members kill themselves at a higher rate then normal people. Yes I think AA is harmful to young people, ( it was harmful to me and they broke me at 19 years old… – and yes I think the powerless feature of AA is extremely harmful to teens ( I was one of these) so…

Soon I will be adding a donate button to help pay for all these expenses. So if you like the site and would like to support it you will be able to do so. Because – frankly …I’m a getting tired of it all ….