30 year old , Santa Clarita man tortures, sexual assaults and murders his 19 day old baby- Clean and Sober !


They don’t come any sicker then this. He raped and killed his own 19 day old baby.

The girl, identified as Ellorah Rose Warner, was found in the front cab of a pickup truck.

Matthew Warner was charged with murder, assault on a child causing death, torture, oral copulation or sexual penetration with a child 10 years or younger, and aggravated sexual assault of a child, according to the Los Angeles County District Attorney’s Office.


We are digging deeper for his criminal records. You can see by the “language” he went to AA or NA meetings. His mother claims he was clean and sober.

We all know what that means. It makes my stomach ill. Tough story. This guy is a monster!


Narcotics Anonymous Member gropes-assaults Women in Parking Lot


Members from a “Narcotics Anonymous” group are responding to sexual battery charges filed against a former member.

The charges and the arrest warrant were issued against 62-year-old Antonio Maldonado Monday. He is accused of taking advantage of a woman recovering from addiction. According to court documents he promised he’d sign participation papers as long as she agreed to sleep with him.

Police say Maldonado sexually assaulted a woman outside of a meeting in south Oklahoma City. Something members say has nothing to do with the good the program does.

“If that’s something that happened on the inside we would have called the police and had him arrested ourselves,” said member Rickey Nickelberry.

Here is another breaking story http://www.okcfox.com/story/27732804/metro-recovery-group-responds-to-charges-filed-against-former-member

David Granskie Jr.- Somerset County Jail in lieu of $1 million bail since May 24, 2009, when he was arrested and charged with the murder of his father’s live-in girlfriend, Carolyn Stone, at their home in the Bradley Gardens section of Bridgewater

WHY after all these years, does this case really bother me. Why is a judge sentencing him to AA and NA meetings for al these violent offenses. I am so beyond upset here with this crap and ignorance.

Does the Judge really not know?

David Granskie Jr.- Somerset County Jail in lieu of $1 million bail since May 24, 2009, when he was arrested and charged with the murder of his father’s live-in girlfriend, Carolyn Stone, at their home in the Bradley Gardens section of Bridgewater.

read full story here

New Season of “Shameless” Shamelessly promoting AA and NA OMG !!!PLEASE tell me this is not happening…


Tonight aired the second episode of this new season on Showtime. We had to sit in a meeting twice. Reading as if they were in an NA meeting but then using the words alcoholics in the background, not addicts ….is totally wrong….small error on their part. Fiona’s new boss seems to be afraid of Fiona, calling her a train wreck and acting like a scarred AA or NA pussy that he is.


I gotta say , I love this show but the stepper shit has got to go. Please have an AA list show have a character said to another character…oh yea” I fucking hate AA, Im going to a Smart meeting or an MM meeting” or have Fiona learn from Lip , her brother that they can’t mandate her to a religious organization. Holy Cow. Will this shit ever end. Can I ever watch a show that has no fully blown AA promotion in it???

Brada Murder Trial Convicts AA member Eric Earle – 26 to life. Now The AA Wrongful Death Lawsuit Begins.

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In October 2014 Eric Earle was convicted of committing Murder 1 for the killing of Karla Brada. 3 long years, her family had to wait for this outcome.

An original Lawsuit against AA, all three of its non- profits, located in NYC and AA in Santa Clarita, the AA sponsors and many more were filed in Sept of 2012. Last year John Noland, an Attorney based in Santa Clarita took over the case.

AA had to respond by Dec 1st which they did. They have hired, or commissioned a super huge Law Firm. I guess AA NY needs to use all those millions for something important like Defending their sorry asses when voting to NOT warn their members about safety.

When will Steppers in NY Headquarters take their 10 th step and see what their part in Karla’s death is. When will the AA members, and employee’s in the NY AA office ask God what they should do about woman being murdered, raped, 13 stepped, sexually harassed and scammed for decades?

Will their 300k salary + hefty pension be enough to sooth their greedy selfish souls? How do they sleep at night? Perhaps they need to be more “of service” and make more coffee at meetings,
puringcoffeepicor sponsor more new comers….

AA General Service Board has known for decades about murders, rapes, 13 stepping, Members giving advice regarding medication, which has caused many a suicide.

This trial, this case, moves forward in March. I look forward to seeing what happens.

And just for the record, Jaro , Hector and I have begun to contact supervising Judges to make sure that one day, No Judge, in America will say those words….”AA or Jail ” ever again!

I’ll see you in Court.

Rape- Sexual Assault in Alcoholics Anonymous Palm Springs, Santa Monica, CA. LGBT COMMUNITY at risk too.

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Recently a woman posted on my stop13 step in AA site. She posted the whole story there. I think you need to see as she has a lot of courage. She is a lovely young 40 year old female that I have been speaking with at length, for the past week, as she is trying to make them change. I want you to go easy with her and her story as she was raped only 40 days ago. The day before Thanksgiving in Palm Springs CA> by a 68 year old male about 5’10 inches tall, in great shape with an accent. He is know to ask women and also be on craigslist. He has a boat in th marina and goes back and forth from Santa Monica , the marina and Palm Springs. Please WARN all. She went to the police and he has not been arrested yet.

She also reported that rape & crisis is Cochella valley said rape with the LGBT GAY AA community in Palm Springs is also very very bad. No one going to the police. I will go out there when a trial happens to support her and help any way I can.

Posted a few days ago by Adrianna W.

My Story:
I for one am looking forward to 2015. I’m not sure where the courage has come from for me to write this letter to you, but I feel it is so very important that I share my story and do my part to “talk about RAPE”, my rape in AA.
The day before Thanksgiving 2014, I was raped, 39 days ago. I have been in AA for close to 10 years and have been clean and sober almost 7 years. My program is my safe haven I am filled with deep gratitude for all that has been freely given to me and I give back as much as I can. My rapist is a man AA in my small community of Palm Springs CA and has 28 (!!) years sober. We call people with lots of time the “elders” and they are the ones we look up to and admire and trust. I am 45 years old. He is 69 years old. (I later found out he injects himself with steroids in he’s arms..yuck!) NOT SOBER
I accepted his “friendly, non romantic invitation to a bicycle ride, the day before thanksgiving. I had only met him briefly at an AA BBQ hosted by my previous sponsor, a woman I trust with my life..or did. I asked her if it was safe to give this man my phone number, as he was interested in helping me with my on-line business. I was told he was fine and safe and has 28 years sober. I gave him my number based on that advice.

After the bike ride (his bikes at his house), we returned to his home where we went inside and has some water and he began making a waffle. He then picked me up off his recliner and began rubbing my shoulders claiming they were tense for the ride. He proceeded to walk behind me, “directing” me into his bedroom. I walked slowly, but I went on my own accord, having no idea he would rape me.
Once in his room he immediately began grabbing at my top, pulling and tearing. I said NO. He said, “Something’s gotta come off” and began pulling at my shorts. I kept my legs closed and he then jumped on top of me and while there began trying to pull my breast out from the top of my shirt, putting his mouth all over my breast. I again said “STOP, I don’t want you to do this”. He then tried to get into my shorts by lying on top of me, suffocating me and holding me down, while his hand tried to get in my shorts. I kept him out and that made him upset. I kept saying, NO, STOP” but he was on top of me and I just froze up inside. He then got off me partially and pulled my shorts and panties to one side and painfully shoved his finger inside of me. I began to sob. I was totally numbed out and paralyzed emotionally. He then got off me and performed oral sex on me for about 2 seconds until I loudly with intent, said “NO STOP, Please!” But I didn’t run or kick him or fight for myself. I just froze up and kept my eyes closed. He then had his shorts off and started loudly saying, “look at me! Look at me..Don’t you want to see what you are missing? I was crying and sobbing. He was angry because I wouldn’t look at him. At that point he shoved his penis inside me and it really hurt. I screamed STOP..I guess loudly enough that he took me seriously, but not before he got at least 2 hard thrusts inside me. He then said, “You know what safe sex is? A condom and a good lawyer”. I had no idea what he was talking about. When it was over he was totally unaffected my tears and the entire act. I got up and got dressed, still totally numb, feeling like I was in some weird dream. I sat down and ate half a waffle, not wanting to exhibit fear. He told me not to tell anyone, especially m AA Sponsor.
I left, got into my car and locked the doors began sobbing and called my old sponsor and went right to her house. She is older and almost in her 70’s. She helped me immensely and I believe was giving me her best advice, but it was bad advice. She told me not to tell anyone, not the police, not my current sponsor or anyone else because would be a “he said-She said” and that I would get a bad reputation in our recovery community and the process would be to traumatizing. She also told me that because I was “pretty” that many of the other women would be happy that I was raped. I know this is false, but it hurt to hear that. I was in total shock and it sounded like a good plan to me because I was numb and I was afraid. For, I was not really in my body to make right decisions or to think clearly for myself. Knowing what I know now I would have called the police right then and there, but I was utterly ashamed and terribly confused and totally numb. Total shock.

Here is the link to her post read full story here…http://stop13stepinaa.wordpress.com/2014/12/08/troll-aa-members-trying-to-crack-the-safety-code-what-a-joke/#comment-5083

Drug Treatment Moguls Lived in Luxury on Medicaid Cash, Say Prosecutors


Are these guys in AA? Usually they are but I would love to verify this.


Prosecutors say the father and son who ran one of New York’s largest drug treatment programs committed fraud and spent taxpayer millions on luxury cars and vacation homes while their patients lived amid rats and bedbugs, but authorities fear shutting down their programs could put thousands of addicts on city streets.

In late October, U.S. Attorney Preet Bharara asked for a civil injunction to stop Narco Freedom from continuing what he described as “an ongoing fraudulent kickback scheme.” This came six days after New York State Attorney General Eric Schneiderman indicted owners Alan and Jason Brand on criminal charges of fraud and money laundering.

“Narco Freedom is not truly functioning as a not-for-profit corporation but is rather a corporation operated for the personal benefit of Mr. Brand,” Robert A. Kent, general counsel to the state’s Office of Alcoholism and Substance Abuse Services (OASAS), wrote in an affidavit filed as part of the state’s case. The Brands strongly contest the allegations.

Read The Crime Report’s Original Story on Narco Freedom

Narco Freedom receives nearly $40 million annually from Medicaid, and because of their indictment the Brands are now barred from running any Medicaid-financed operation. But their programs live on, and continue to receive Medicaid funding, because they provide methadone to 10 percent of New York City’s heroin addicts and housing for hundreds of patients, many of whom are returning from jail and prison. More than 3,000 people could be left without treatment, according to court testimony and interviews, if Narco Freedom and associated businesses were shuttered.

read full story here.


The Center for Motivation and Change -a New Approach- Science and Kindness.

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I have interviewed the founder Jeff Foote on my blog talk radio show  http://www.blogtalkradio.com/saferecovery/2014/11/12/jeff-foote-author-of-beyond-addiction-non-12-step-rehab-opens-in-upstate-ny  and I would like to share what I am learning here. I too have a loved one who is still struggling or working with issues around alcohol use. Because of our stepper back ground we have created harm in my family. AA is very bad. AA is very harmful to young people. I believe that if I would have forced AA on my sons one of them would be dead by now and the other one would have left home and would not speak to us. We were crazy ass stepper parents for a while…But we both left and we both drink moderately now and we are so much more open now…about everything. SO for that I am so glad I left AA in 2011 and in 2008-09 I could see that AA was not what I thought anymore. I saw the cult aspect and how religious and how dangerous it IS!!!

Still there are challenges and its very painful for everyone sometimes. I am reading their Book beyondaddictionpic

BEYOND ADDICTION http://www.amazon.com/Beyond-Addiction-Science-Kindness-People/dp/1476709483/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&sr=&qid=and using CRAFT to learn new tools. I am tired of reading addiction self help books but I just have to . We are also seeing a great therapist PhD,  that helps with using this kindness and science approach . Meeting the person where they are at right now. Reinforcing positively when they are not drinking, drink etc. Harm reduction is the model as well. There has been much undoing I have done over the last 6 years, but a lot of previous damage was done and it would have been so much better if we used this approach in 2008 and not AA thinking. Oh well…but this is why I want to get the word out about this approach for families, spouses and even therapists who still think AA and AL Anon are the only ways to go.

There are in fact many PhD’s who say…go get sober  for a year and then I will work with you ….How wrong is that… http://motivationandchange.com

Educate, empower and expose! 2015 will be a great year.