Here is the 7.5 min trailer
I spent the day on a stage in Venice, CA filming some of the finest VO actors in Hollywood reading public posts written on my www.stop13stepinaa.wordpress.com blog from way back when… till recently. It was mind blowing to hear these actors speak your works …OMG the insanity that is going on in AA it abominable!!!
Many of you reached out to me with your sad tales of rape, controlling sponsors, assault and 13 stepping. I cried when I saw the new trailer for the first time yesterday.
I have spent hundreds of hours with your stories in my head , in my files and on my computer. But now you are all coming to life privately in a cinematic way, to change how the world sees AA with all of the lies and criminal activity as well as the cult aspect is and was captured today on film.
I have one more video that’s about 3 1/2 min long that has more alternatives to AA footage that I will release in January 2014. It has been a long journey, but I do plan to release the film in spring of 2014 and to submit to film festivals worldwide.
NO ONE has EVER made an exposing critical Documentary of Alcoholics Anonymous and people like controversy film so I am sure we will find distribution.
I was surprised how many Actors were also pissed off how one sided this issue is handled to this day!
Hi everyone…I have a new trailer ready and its it up on youtube right now. Please share and feel free to contact me if you want.
December 10, 2013
Although we are raising money again… I am really posting here for you to see the progress I have made and what the new footage looks like. Please spread the word.
This story is too controversial, untapped and never told. Hollywood loves that sh*t.
We know the truth here. Now the rest of America and the world converted to AA Bullsh*t needs to know it too!
13TH STEP FILM AWARDED FISCAL SPONSORSHIP THROUGH THE IDA
The 13th Step film has been awarded fiscal sponsorship through the International Documentary Association. This sponsorship has made the film eligible to receive tax deductible donations and grants to further our funding efforts.
Our first fundraising campaign through Indiegogo raised over $24,000. With those funds we have been able to hire a professional crew that includes a Producer, Director of Photography, Camera Operator, Documentary Film Editor and support staff. We are filming new footage using Canon 5D cameras. Below is a link to the new trailer that we have created with your generous contributions.
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I continue to receive sexual predatory stories on my blogs weekly, and am still seeking people who are willing to share their stories. If you would like to speak to me privately, please e-mail me at firstname.lastname@example.org
ABOUT THE FILM:
The 13th Step is about the criminal and sexually predatory behavior that occurs systemically in Alcoholics Anonymous. This behavior goes unchecked by A.A’s world headquarters, despite repeated warnings from respect board members and longtime members. This behavior is exacerbated by the systematic sentencing of criminals and sex offenders to AA meetings without the knowledge of the AA members.
What if, at the lowest time in your life, those who are supposed to help you, prey on you? It happens every day, in countless AA and NA rooms across the world. The story has the same lame routine and ring to it every time. The new, freshly sober gal comes to a meeting, hoping for clarity and a new way of life, and before you know it, there’s a man schmoozing her up, trying to get on her good side, with more than just good intentions at hand. This has been termed “13th stepping” and most women new to the program have no idea what 13th stepping even is. The one thing most freshly sobered up AA and NA patrons usually don’t count on is meeting other people who are more sick than themselves. They come in with rose colored glasses on, ready to see the world with new eyes and never figure that the problems they might encounter in the rooms themselves may be as bad or worse than the problems they already have. The question is, why don’t the old-timers and those who have been around the program for a while help these women? Better yet, why doesn’t the World Board in both programs set forth clear rules on this issue?
Those within the walls of AA and NA include those that want to be sober and are there of their own free will, those that aren’t sure if they even have a problem but want to check out a meeting or two, those ordered to attend by judges in cases such as drunk driving, and then there are those who have to come as part of a treatment program for other problems such as sexual crimes or other felonies they have committed. There are countless felons in AA, who by all standards are not all bad, but there are those who have committed sexual abuse, there those that have tried to kill their wives and girlfriends, those who have raped, and pedophiles. The list goes on and on. Perhaps judges in criminal courtrooms should stop ordering those who have committed sexual offenses into these programs and instead insist that they get individual counseling or inpatient treatment. Sadly, that wouldn’t entirely solve the problem even if such orders were issued however, because once those with sexual addictions figure out that meetings are a place to meet vulnerable women, they keep going back, even after court ordered sanctions have ended.
Frequently in the rooms, people say, “Keep your own side of the street clean, and take your own inventory.” What this means essentially is don’t worry about what others are doing. It is none of your concern. This is precisely the response that one newcomer got from from the World Board of NA after calling to call attention to a man with seventeen years of sobriety that made 13th stepping a regular habit. “What this man does is single out the newcomers. He’s around fifty years old and keeps an eye open for any fresh meat that comes through the doors. Doesn’t matter their age. They could be his age, or even under 18. If they look good to him, he pounces. He got to me when I had about thirty days sober. What these guys do is take women like me who have to leave everything behind in order to start a new life, and they sort of brainwash us I guess, make us feel like we can depend on someone and that all is not lost. What eventually ends up happening is that these girls and women build their foundation upon him and other men like him, and eventually they find out that not only is he lying to her, he’s screwing just about every other chick in the room. I’ve talked to women who wanted to kill themselves over this guy, and let me be real clear about this, it’s not just the guy that makes them feel this way. It’s the head game. These women are already at their lowest and desperately just need to feel like someone cares and we all know that’s human nature. This one man in particular is known on a national level in NA and has even gone as far as to pick up a sponsor on the World Board. I have no doubt that was intentional. He serves on state boards in Nebraska and attends national conferences where he is invited to speak often. Everyone knows about him, and when I called the World Board to report him and the damage he was causing, I was essentially told to go call someone who cares, that they don’t take anyone’s inventory. This isn’t a joke. The guy has something like 14 felonies, is one of the most manipulative men I’ve ever met and people just laugh it off while high-fiving him for being the guy that has three girlfriends in every state in the U.S. Meanwhile women keep relapsing over it. Some have relapsed over and over because he just doesn’t stop. This one guy and his actions have the potential to kill several, and he’s only one of hundreds, if not thousands who are lurking,” said one anonymous NA member.
Are you shocked yet? Undoubtedly, if you’ve been around NA a while, you know his name, but chances are you won’t say it, due to that darn anonymity crap, which is evidently just another loophole for the sick and demented to be able to get away with this kind of stuff. Alcoholics Anonymous is no different. “I wasn’t so much a newcomer anymore but had one man approach me who seemed very nice at first. I wasn’t very trusting of anyone, but somehow he convinced me that I could trust him and we built what I thought would end up being a solid friendship. I confided in him, and he in me, and then things went south. He started making crude comments to me and at first I laughed it off, but when I asked him to stop, it continued. I had other women in the program telling me that everyone knew he was a predator and that I really needed to be careful. It didn’t stop and one day I became very angry and decided to let him know, in no uncertain terms, that I’d had enough, and he better stop. The end result was horrendous. I ended up losing several friends whom by all accounts, I needed in my fellowship, and he accused me of ‘playing victim’. He said he’d done nothing wrong and that my not saying anything to him at first was me giving him permission to treat me that way. That’s no different than telling a woman she deserved to be raped because she wore a dress and not pants. After it was all said and done, I realized that this man had even gone to such an extent to get close to me, that he offered to be a sponsor to one of my family members who was also in the program. That’s pretty sick,” said an anonymous AA member.
The World Boards of Alcoholics Anonymous and Narcotics Anonymous both have no position on this issue apparently. AA members have seen men come in drunk into meetings and be asked to leave, but the predators are allowed to stay. Naturally, the women who come in drunk are welcomed with open arms. Perhaps that shouldn’t be such a surprise however, as the founder of AA, Bill Wilson, was an incredible womanizer himself. He was so bad, apparently, that he had to have others keep watch over him in meetings and functions and when he’d get that familiar gleam in his eye, the other members would distract him. It is rumored that one woman named Helen Wynn, one of his mistresses, still getspayments to this day from his estate which are taken out of donations in meetings that are sent to World Services. Both of these facts are common place knowledge but it’s become part of the unspoken code. What does that tell you? It really isn’t surprising that evil lurks. Bill did, after all, write the 12 Steps of AA with the help of a ouija board and that is no secret either. Incidentally, the NA program was modeled after the AA program with a slight tweaking of the steps that members follow.
As a side note, men aren’t the only predators in the programs, as women have been noted to 13th step men too, but it is rare and the destruction caused by men is unparalleled. Women have died at the hands of male predators in the programs. Google ‘predators in AA‘ or ‘predators in NA‘. The results will make you sick to your stomach, and yet, even the old-timers who have watched it happen for decades simply turn a blind eye. They know which ones are sick, and yet do nothing. Women who feel uncomfortable in the rooms need to come forward, and they need to come forward in droves and demand that this criminal behavior not be tolerated any longer. It needs to be stopped, and it needs to be stopped now. Those who ignore this issue are as bad as the predators themselves. Perhaps a few lawsuits would set the World Boards straight?
see the link here …http://voices.yahoo.com/a-gathering-place-predators-12365031.html?cat=9
Writers note: There is a documentary type film being made on this issue, which I have no direct connection to, but found online while talking to others and researching this topic. It is called “The 13th Step” and the Facebook page can be seen here:https://www.facebook.com/pages/13stepping/469973469749422. If you’d like to view preview trailer on the film, there are several links on the Facebook page, this one included:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=_YlfIdCwzYQ&desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3D_YlfIdCwzYQ&app=desktop.
RECENTLY , today , Governor Jerry Brown vetoed a bill that would extend statue of limitations on suing Private Institutions for childhood sexual abuse.
Read full story here…
Why would he do this? Why would our Governor be so lacking in sensitivity to childhood sexual abuse? I have no answers but I will be going to Sacramento to investigate why violent and sex offenders are plea bargained to Alcoholics Anonymous meetings…
a no where place that has no one in charge, no leaders, no professional setting and a place where the most vulnerable woman and men go and are met with senior, seasoned, sexually predatory old- timers, and sex offenders who go there intentionally to prey on new comers.
If you are unaware what is going on in AA, please ask me any question. AA is run by simple lay “sober ” members who could have a day sober, six months sober, ten years sober, or they could be lying, or are a school teacher, or a rapist, or a plumber, or a murderer, or you. You will never know.
DO NOT TRUST ANY of them till they prove themselves trust worthy. I highly suggest you go to SMART RECOVERY, MODERATION, HARM Reduction, SOS, The Sinclair Method, or by goggling alternatives to 12 step programs.
If you or anyone you know, any child, any teen has been harmed, please contact me at email@example.com. I will be in NYC and Colorado filming soon. I am currently in California filming interviews and will posting a short video update very soon.
Posted in 13 Stepping, Exposing AA by Massive on April 24, 2013 Edit This
WARNING! If you did not know this fact:
- The Courts are sending these men to AA and NA
- The sexual predator is coming to AA and NA and are targeting vulnerable new woman
- Old timers are sexually harassing woman and teens. ( DO NOT SEND YOUR TEEN TO AN AA MEETING) try SMART RECOVERY, SOS, or Moderation.org instead. It’s safer.
- There is no one in charge at any 12 step meeting
- There is no trained facilitator at any meeting ( even though in some TV shows and FILMS they depict AA to be this way….its NOT!)
- A sponsor is just a lay person. They have no training. They may be nuts. They maybe a thief. They may be nice. They may be a rapist. They may be a thief.
- We are getting many complaints about controlling abusive sponsors and many are leaving now because of this.
- A young persons meeting is the same as any other meeting. Its just a name. Do not trust anyone with your under age minor.
- If you are a woman with small children do not trust an AA man with your toddlers. There are many pedophiles in AA now.
A GOOD RULE : TREAT AA and NA people like you would any other stranger. Do not give them a pass because they are sober in AA and preach a good talk. Do not trust them sooner then you would someone you meet in a grocery store. AA and NA members are not more spiritual then some knucklehead you might meet on the street.
I am finishing up the Documentary film we have been working on for almost two years. The activism work has been on going since January of 2009.
It will be released in 2013. Perfect for its tittle…The 13thStep….
Anyone who has been a victim of sexual harassment, assault, rape, wrongful death, and even financial scams please contact us ASAP.
I am also interested in stories about sponsor control and abuses. You can send me letters that actors will read on camera. You can be presented in the light or anonymous. In the light is better but I will consider all stories.
I m working on my trailer right now and plan to be done with it by mid March. I am considering using Kickstarter to raise funds, considering how many I think have left AA furious. The trailer will be put up on youtube or vimeo as soon as I am done with it.
Please post on all the anti AA sites that you know of. Thanks!
A young woman posted this on my blog and I felt it was so horrific what was done to her that it needed to be on the front page. PLease support her with your stories and courage as to how to go to the police, sue AA and sue these men for sexual harassment. If this happened in her church, her therapists office or at her place of work she would and could sue. SHe can sue him and AA World Service in NYC with all of it’s millions in the bank and its insurance coverage for sexual harassment and she can go to DON CHAMPION from ABC NEWS in Denver who is covering this story on camera. I have his number and you can also find him on the ABC Denver website. He’s a great guy who cares.
Kelly on September 14, 2012 at 10:14 AM said: Edit
Ladies Beware! This is my story of being “13th stepped”. I am telling my story in hopes that I may be able to stop at least one woman from going through this very shaming experience. This is not an attempt to bash AA nor am I trying to say that people shouldn’t go. I simply want people, women especially, to know that there are predators in AA and we must protect ourselves.
I first entered AA in May of 2006 at the age of 26 and God knows I needed A LOT of help at that time! I was a mess. My drinking was causing problems in all areas of my life and I couldn’t stop. I was so happy to have finally found people who had a way out. My family was happy too that there was a group of people who had the answer and who were willing to help me. What they were teaching me in AA was that I am powerless over alcohol and I am insane because I keep doing the same things and expecting different results. The only way I could recover was to find a God, clear the “wreckage of the past” and help others. Well, ok I can do this I thought. It was also recommended that I find a sponsor, someone who could help me work on the 12 steps and they should be someone of the same sex. Over the years I have had a few female sponsors and they were all wonderful ladies that tried to help me. However, I still struggled. I had a difficult time reaching out to them. They all told me that it was my job to call them, that they wouldn’t be calling me. Over the years I have been in and out of “the program” but could never seem to grasp the principles of this so-called “simple program”. I asked too many questions, didn’t believe in God and had a hard time trusting anyone there. The more I tried, the more I failed.
I met a lot of people in “the rooms” of AA. There are people from all walks of life who attend these meetings and whose lives have been saved because they work the program. Alcoholism kills people and to date there is no cure. I could buy into that one because I have family members who died from Alcoholism. I could also see that I, myself, was dying a slow and painful emotional death. Each time I drank, I lost more of myself. I went from being a happy-go-lucky teenager who just wanted to have fun and fit in to a 32 year old woman who was depressed, and full of shame and self hatred. I kept going to meetings and trying to work the steps to the best of my ability.
I am a very determined person by nature and I think that’s why I haven’t given up yet. I joined a new group in May of 2012 because my work schedule limited the meetings I was able to attend due to the fact that I work evenings. So, I was going to meetings, sharing and listening to others. Everyone knew that I was going through a hard time and that I am still struggling to get sober time in.
After a meeting one night, a man I will call Jeff gave me his phone number and told me to call him if I wanted help. I took his number but never called him. I thought to myself, “what does this guy want?” The next week after the meeting he approached me again and said “I’m waiting for you to call me, I told my wife you would be calling”. I still never called the man. You see, I have always been an attractive woman and I have attracted all kinds of predators in my life and I didn’t trust men period. After the 4th time Jeff insisted that I call him he asked me if I would just meet him for a coffee as he just wanted to share with me his “awesome program.” Reluctantly, I agreed to meet him at the coffee shop and the very first thing he said to me was this: “First of all, I want you to know that I am NOT a 13th stepper. I am a happily married man with two children. I have 21 years of continuous sobriety and I have an awesome program. My only intention is to share my program with you and give to you what was freely given to me.” WOW, I thought, this is great. He does just want to help me! I was so glad that this man was for real. Finally! Someone who seems to have a great life and is willing to teach me the way! So, I gave him my phone number and he said that he would call me tomorrow to see how I am. He also gave me some homework to do and reassured me that he could and would help me. I welcomed his help.
Over the next month, I met with Jeff once or twice a week to work the steps and he even called me everyday. No one from the program ever seemed so eager to help me. I started to feel hopeful because this was a new approach to the program, I had tried and tried many times and my life was still in shambles. I was desperate for any and all help that I could get. Jeff told me that I had to do step 4 & 5 right away if I wanted to get better. So, for the first time I began to write down stuff about myself. They call it taking a “moral inventory”. I had always feared this step because I have been through a lot over the years and I certainly didn’t want to discuss that crap with anyone. I really trusted Jeff by this time so I did it. Steps 4 and 5 were finally done. I had been both searching and fearless (which is what is recommended) and left no stone unturned. The things I shared with Jeff were my deepest, darkest secrets, the shameful things I had done in the throws of my addiction, the things I was afraid of, my weaknesses, the people who had harmed me. Everything. It was hard but I felt good about finally getting it done and over with. Maybe I could move on and things would get better from here.
Unfortunately, not long after I completed these steps I had a relapse. I ended up in detox and was again emotionally and spiritually broken. I wanted to die. My thoughts were consumed by suicidal fantasies. I called Jeff and told him that I was in detox. I was scared that he would be mad at me and would stop helping me. But no, Jeff told me it was ok and he would never ever stop helping me no matter what. He claimed that my relapse was a positive event that would catapult my recovery. Oh good I thought to myself. I’ve still got hope yet. Jeff called my family and told them that I was ok and assured them that he would help me. They, too, were grateful for him and the fact that he was willing to spend time trying to help me. When I got out of detox he picked me up and we went for a coffee to talk and make a plan. At that time, he invited me to go to his cottage on the bay and told me that I had to get in touch with my higher power there. Good idea, I thought. So Thursday morning I met him at the coffee shop and we drove out to his cottage from there. We brought our big books and went through it, highlighting the relevant parts that I needed to study. The whole time we were studying I was thinking to myself that I was so grateful to have Jeff’s help!
When we were getting ready to leave Jeff came and sat next to me and said “you are such a wonderful person with so many good qualities, you are so beautiful both inside and out… I love you”. You love me? What? Um, that makes me feel uncomfortable. But, I never said anything. I should have because it was then that he tried to kiss me. I pulled away and started crying. He said “why are you crying?” I said “because I should have known this was going to happen and I believed you when you said that you just wanted to help me!” he said “I do, I do! I’m so sorry! I have defects too you know!” He told me that he would never do that again and he would still be able to help me”. I should have known at that time that it was over. I should have just told him then to never call me again. I didn’t because he already had me sucked in to his promises. I was already dependant on his phone calls, his promises of serenity and his claims that he could make my life better.
I left there feeling so confused. I didn’t know what to do! I honestly felt like I needed his help or I would die. But deep down inside I felt sick. I had just told this man everything about me. When I got home I cried some more. That night I prayed that this would all go away and Jeff would be able to keep helping me without wanting anything from me. But that’s not what happened. The next night we met at the meeting early and sat in his car to talk. He again apologized. I told him it was ok. Then he told me that he would do anything to have sex with me. I was speechless. He told me that I needed to work on my issues with men and sex and that he could help me through that by allowing him to teach me how to let people love me. He said he was trustworthy and wouldn’t hurt me like so many have before. Without letting on how shocked and disgusted I was, I got out of his car and went and stood by another member because by this time, people were showing up for the meeting. I didn’t get back into his car. Instead, I went into the meeting and took a seat at the back. It was an open meeting that night and Jeff was to be the guest speaker. The meeting began and my mind started racing. It was surreal to me. Of course, I am NOT going to have an affair with this man. As “sick” as I was, I knew that this was WRONG. Jeff spoke that night at the meeting and the more he talked the more I realized that I had been fooled. He spoke about how he had an honest program and that he worked had everyday to keep his defects in check. I looked around the room and I could see how engrossed everyone was in his every word. I could see how much of a con man he was! I wanted to get up and tell everyone that he was lying! I wanted everyone to know what he had just proposed to me in the car! I didn’t though. I left the meeting and cried the whole way home. Now what do I do? The next morning I talked to my parents and told them that Jeff wasn’t my sponsor anymore and this is the reason why. It turned out that I didn’t have to do anything because my father took it upon himself to call Jeff up and threaten him. He was not to call me or go around me at all or dad would call his wife. So that was the end of Jeff, or so I thought.
Since that night I have been feeling hurt and angry. I still can’t believe that I didn’t see through his lies. I am angry and embarrassed that I ever did a 4th and 5th step with this predator. Thankfully, I got a new sponsor who is FEMALE and who is willing to help me. I have been trying to move past this but Jeff has recently been trying to call me and I refuse to answer because I don’t want to talk to him or see him. I feel scared to go to meetings now because I don’t want to run into him but I can’t stop going to meetings because apparently AA is the only path to freedom! Plus, I don’t want to give that man the satisfaction of knowing that he messed with my head. The Monday that just passed, he showed up a meeting and just stood outside of car and stared at my car. I went into the meeting and he never came in. He called me 5 times on Thursday and finally left a message that he wanted to “make amends to me”. I talked to my sponsor about this and she said that she would call George, who is actually Jeff’s sponsor, and just ask him to tell Jeff to “leave me alone”. When she did, Jeff’s sponsor said that she shouldn’t believe me, that I have a history of doing things like this and not to let me fool her. Jeff would never do anything like that. His reputation is impeccable. I was and still am shocked about what George said! It’s NOT TRUE! So now my sponsor tells me that I have to LET IT GO! And she is right. I have to let it go… and I will. I just wanted to write this experience out so that perhaps I can warn other women who might be hurting and desperate for help. Do not be fooled by men claiming to have a great program and claiming that they can help you. There are predators out there who want nothing more than to feed their own ego and try to get vulnerable women to satisfy their sick, uncontrollable urges.
Posted in Exposing AA, Women’s Right in AA Culture by Massive on July 23, 2012 Edit This
This is possibly one of the worse stories yet to see reported. Thank you for telling the truth here about Alcoholics Anonymous members. Sick, sick and sicker…Why do this men think they can call their sick behavior an addiction? It’s a behavior. Everyone seems to have a favorite excuse for their criminal behavior these days.
Glad to see this Judge wasn’t buying his lies.
Randolph Pozdol, 68, told a federal court judge he suffered from sex addiction
| Monday, Jul 23, 2012 | Updated 10:41 PM EDT
A Miami man who was arrested for sexually assaulting two Dania Beach children and downloading child porn was sentenced to 30 years in prison, the South Florida Sun Sentinel reported.
Randolph Pozdol, 68, who admitted to the assaults, told a federal court judge he suffered from sex addiction but that the assault on the children was a one-time aberration, the newspaper said.
“A period of madness is why I’m here today,” he was quoted as saying.
Pozdol was originally arrested when downloads of child porn were traced to his home. Investigators found more than 175 illegal images and videos as well as the video of the sexual assault of the children, who appeared to have been drugged.
The assaults of the children, now 14 and 12 years old, happened over a two-and-a-half-year period between 2004 and 2006. Their mother, whom Pozdol sponsored in Alcoholics Anonymous and was romantically involved with, died of an accidental drug overdose in 2006 after taking morphine and an antidepressant, according to investigators.
The woman’s brother and sister, who adopted the two children, said in court that they were relieved Pozdol would not harm again, the Sentinel reported.
Sean Calahan was a sex offenders who got his way and plea bargained his out of jail card and was attending AA meetings. While attending he was taking advantage of new women in AA because he said they were easy prey ” wrote his parole officer in the report.
Read the whole story here… http://leaderadvertiser.com/news/article_201455de-7e9f-11e1-9514-0019bb2963f4.html
This is the very thing we are discussing and object to with AA. Its Own AA World Headquarters, likes to bury it’s head in the sand and do nothing to protect the unknowing public as well as it’s current members.
How does a NON- Profit get away with this sort of thing? If you have been a victim of this man or any other man like this, please contact us here for support.