Important Article by Gabrielle Glaser about Twelve Steps to Danger: How Alcoholics Anonymous Can Be a Playground for Violence-Prone Members
In light of the Harvey Weinstein Scandal, The #METOO and now #TIMESUP Campaign we are hoping that the voices of women and men who have been victimized in AA, NA, Rehabs and Sober Living will NO LONGER BE LEFT in Silence for Sexual misconduct and Crimes of a Sexual Nature.
We were interviewed by VICE a few months back. This was a huge break through. It felt like a miracle. But it is not. We are like the last house on the block. But we are not!
This is posted here with the permission of the writer herself.
Post written by Carrie Lee
So after a year of sporadically making my way through the Orange Papers and being involved here on this forum here’s my take on what’s going on with AA:
1. The premise and dominant philosophies of AA came from the Oxford Groups – a puritanical fundamentalist Christian group started by a nazi sympathiser
2. The program, a mish-mash of poor philosophy and random spirituality, was cobbled together through the ‘inspiration’ of a megalomaniac, womanising, momentarily-physically-sober madman with absolutely no supportive evidence that it could be relevant to alcoholics except the backing of one doctor who was apparently impressed with the idea of peer support (wow, what a concept). The god-stuff was entirely erroneous.
3. The program was given credibility when they lobbied the AMA to call alcoholism a disease so it would be covered by insurance …and so the now billion dollar D&A industry was born to perpetuate the myth
4. The program has always had a heavy confessional component that keeps people focused on their negatives, their self-esteem low and their minds therefore malleable
5. This allows for an environment in which control-freaks and predators can thrive and prey on the vulnerable
6. The program has no greater success rate than the percentage of people giving up naturally in any given year. Further, there are many components of both the program itself and the way people apply it that actively work against a person’s sobriety and well-being from simple ideas like don’t get a partner or job when both are proven to be tremendously helpful to people wishing to get sober, to the harmful such as “it’s a disease, you are powerless and will need us forever”, to the seriously dangerous like “don’t take your meds”
7. While you could forgive it for not being effective, it’s hard to forgive the serious harm done through sexual abuse, mental manipulation, guilt-tripping and humiliation that lead to suicides, binge drinking, premature death, loss of family, friends and support structures and at the very least, many lost years and opportunities
8. The program will never be altered in light of new evidence and proven current support mechanisms.
What’s not to like eh??!?!?!?!?!
Will you come forward. Sexual harassment, lewd comments, groping, sexual demands placed on Women who were sponsored by a certain someone.
In light of the Harvey Weinstein Scandal we think it is time now to speak up.
I have been told that women have been raped by Men in the Pacific Group. More then once.
please write to us @email@example.com
all communications will be confidential.
Its taken a very long time to get heard. But I feel today with this article on VICE – The story is now out. Please share everywhere.
Written by Elizabeth Brown
posted November 11, 2017
Women are encouraged to “look for their part” in what’s happened to them.
still believe in the foundation of AA because it did save my life and help me get sober almost ten years ago,” says Adrian Wilson. She tells me she had been in the program for six years when she met a man at an Alcoholics Anonymous barbecue hosted by her female sponsor. The man asked for her card, saying he could help promote her clothing business. Wilson says she checked with her sponsor as to whether the man was a “safe” person and was told “yes—he’s an elder with 30 years sober.” A few weeks later, Wilson alleges that she went on a bike ride with him and then stopped by his house for waffles where he proceeded to sexually assault her “in every way, shape, and form.”
Wilson says she drove to her sponsor’s house, hysterical, immediately after the rape where her sponsor told her not to call the police or go to the hospital because “everyone in AA will hate you.” She suggested that instead, Wilson “get on [her] knees and pray, work the steps, and look for [her] part in what happened.”
Read Full story here…
Congrats to the Producers and Writers of Law & Order SVU for telling this story. I contacted them last year – again this spring and again recently. I sent them alot of info. I called the production office in NYC. No one called me back. But they are doing a Great JOB Exposing this shit.
Retterath, of Osage, is accused of committing sexual acts against the will of a man while acting as the man’s Alcoholics Anonymous sponsor in 2015.
In the other case, Retterath was found guilty in August of sexual abuse, attempted murder and solicitation to commit murder. Investigators say he planned to kill the victim with the poison ricin after the man reported sexual abuse to authorities.
JUST in case you are thinking about how you were sexually harassed in AA, NA or OA…please contact us here for a place to speak out. YOU ARE NOT ALONE and no one here will tell you what you will hear in a meeting like…what’s your part in it. The HARVEY Weinstein Sex scandal, along with Kevin Spacey has made it so that maybe FINALLY we will be heard.
Please share anywhere you think is appropriate. Write to firstname.lastname@example.org for help. If a Crime is committed contact us, rape in crisis and the police. If the police do not take you seriously call the local FBI office for rape in AA. Many who work in Rape and crisis are in AA and may still victim blame you and cover up for an AA member. Always ask ” are you in AA” . When reporting if someone seems a bit — off.
Top L.A. County prosecutors who reported sexual harassment by boss receive $700,000 settlement, Beth Silverman and Tannaz Mokayef came forward in 2015.
Story by Matt Hamilton
wo prosecutors in the Los Angeles County district attorney’s office will receive $700,000 to settle a lawsuit accusing their supervisor of subjecting them to regular harassment and fostering an abusive, sexually charged workplace.
The Los Angeles County Board of Supervisors approved the settlement Tuesday. Details on how the money would be divided among Deputy Dist. Attys. Beth Silverman and Tannaz Mokayef and their lawyers were not released. The payout will be drawn from the district attorney’s budget, according to county records.
In a civil lawsuit filed in 2015, Silverman and Mokayef, both members of the district attorney’s elite major crimes division, accused their former supervisor, Gary Hearnsberger, of grabbing their buttocks, declaring his fondness for sexually pleasuring women, and making disparaging remarks about women, crime victims and a transgender attorney.
The pair said they were penalized for rebuffing Hearnsberger’s advances. They alleged that other female prosecutors received high-profile cases for tolerating the harassment, engaging in sexual banter with Hearnsberger or providing sexual favors.
Attorneys for Mokayef said in court papers that at least four other female employees of the D.A.’s office also complained internally that they were victims of sexual harassment and other misconduct by Hearnsberger.
On Tuesday, Dist. Atty. Jackie Lacey disputed suggestions that her office had overlooked allegations of sexual misconduct.
“We have no tolerance for sexual harassment in this office,” Lacey said in a statement. “My managers are trained through the county and as part of my leadership team to respect their colleagues and uphold the values of this office.”
After the settlement was approved, a spokeswoman for the D.A.’s office said the case was settled to resolve outstanding disputes and avoid the expense and inconvenience of further litigation.
Silverman, who successfully led the prosecution of the so-called Grim Sleeper serial killer, Lonnie Franklin Jr., declined to comment on the settlement.
Mokayef, who won a murder conviction against “The Shield” actor Michael Jace, said in an email written in all-caps that she was “not interested in speaking” about the matter. Her attorney, Greg Smith, also declined to comment.
Both prosecutors remain in the major crimes unit, according to a spokeswoman for the district attorney’s office.
Hearnsberger and his attorney did not respond to messages seeking comment. After more than three decades with the office, Hearnsberger retired March 31, about a week before Silverman’s attorneys formally notified an Orange County judge that the case had been settled to avoid a trial. Hearnsberger had continued to receive a salary after being placed on paid administrative leave in March 2015.
The lawsuit had been transferred to Orange County after the Los Angeles County Superior Court bench was disqualified from hearing the case.
Hearnsberger remains an active member of the California state bar, which listed him at a post office box in the Yucca Valley, north of Palm Springs. In an interview with The Times shortly after the lawsuit was filed, Hearnsberger denied the women’s claims.
“I’m being charged with a crime I didn’t commit, and that’s not something prosecutors want to see,” Hearnsberger said. “Any kind of sexual allegations with me, her, them or other lawyers in major crimes or any other place where I’ve been head deputy is completely and totally untrue.”
But court records offered detailed allegations of Hearnsberger’s alleged lewd behavior in the office.
As supervisor of the unit that handles the D.A.’s highest-profile and complex homicide cases, Hearnsberger would make gestures mimicking oral sex and often laced his comments with graphic sexual remarks, Silverman alleged.
At a 2013 work-related event at the Biltmore Hotel, he put his hands on her buttocks and told her, “You know you like it,” according to the lawsuit.
Mokayef, a former gang prosecutor who joined the major crimes unit in 2014, said that Hearnsberger once reached under her skirt at a restaurant and grabbed her crotch. He also compared her cellphone’s vibrations to a sexual toy, according to court documents.
“He screams. He yells. He’s nasty,” Silverman said in a deposition excerpted in court records.
Silverman — whose performance reviews over the last decade praised her for being one of the best trial lawyers in the unit — said she alerted at least two superiors to the mistreatment. One of her superiors prevented her from disclosing all of the details to him, saying he did not want to hear about it, according to court papers.
A district attorney’s spokeswoman said the office did not learn the specifics of the harassment allegations until Silverman and Mokayef filed their lawsuit.
Silverman said in court papers that since coming forward with her complaint she had been isolated, defamed, harassed, and even cut off in hallways by colleagues.
“The alleged perpetrator has left the department,” Mokayef’s attorney, Christopher Brizzolara, said Monday. “If nothing else, the case did accomplish that.”
Its important that those who are sexually harassed in AA, NA come forward now. We are talking to a journalist and more….reach me at email@example.com
this is on their tax return…what are they talking about – How does AA provide service – what services do they provide?
How are they NOT connected to the member and the groups when we call them and say we were harmed, raped, sexually harassed. WHY DOES AA SAY THEY HAVE NO PART IN IT ? But they like the connection to the groups and members to have a nice tax write off … dont they ?
Where is a hotline to file complaints?
They HAVE NONE. CALL AND COMPLAIN _ Write emails , write to your local newspaper and your local TV outlets if you were sexually harassed in AA in any way. SHOUT IT OUT ! NOW IS THE TIME>
Does AA help still suffering alkies as they pretend to? How do they do it then. How much are the Officers paid in NY ? ALL is here for you to see.
Here is just one link to AA World wide Headquarters. What does AA do with the money the groups send into NYC ?