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The 13th Step film exposing Alcoholics Anonymous

January 21, 2020 Posted by MONICA RICHARDSON Uncategorized 1 Comment

 Monica Richardson’s documentary about predators in AA—The 13th Step.

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Here is some activism to change AA was the force behind her “Make AA Safer” hotline, her stop13stepinaa website and now this feature-length film.

Richardson was introduced to AA through Tom Catton (author of The Mindful Addict) back as a teenager. By 21, with three years sober, she was the “token teenage speaker” for AA. Now, looking back, she says, “I don’t think anybody who’s a teenager is an alcoholic.”

The film interviews a slew of women who have been sexually abused by men in AA as well as the family members of women, like Karla Brada, who have been murdered by AA members. Brada met Eric Allen Earl in AA. He had nowhere to go so she took him in and was dead by his hands four months later. After the fact, her family dug into his history and discovered he had 22 years of criminal activity including eight restraining orders and a stunning 52 court-orders to AA. Brada’s family are suing AA for wrongful death.

“Julie” knew a guy in the rooms of AA for three years when he invited her over for coffee at his home, only to slip a date rape drug in her tea and assault her. When Julie complained to her sponsor about the incident, she was met with “Well, what was your part?”

“Brittany,” a newcomer from Kentucky, was befriended by an old timer at her regular meeting. She was 13th stepped and relapsed as a result. With no money and nowhere to go, she went to him for help and he took her into his home, supplied her $500 a day dope habit and used her dopesickness to hold her sexually hostage.

The film highlights various upsetting stories like this, including Darlene who met and got engaged to a man in AA who later confessed to being a sexual predator, and the story of a woman whose married mother went to AA when she was young. The woman—who chose to remain anonymous and was shot in silhouette—confesses that her mother was seduced by an AA member who broke up her parents’ marriage and then proceeded to molest her for the next eight years. Numerous disturbing newspaper headlines flash across the screen reporting sexual assault or violence at the hands of AA members, including young Thomas McGuire Jr., who was murdered by his AA sponsor.

The film explains that the court is ordering people to AA (which is actually against AA’s traditions), including violent criminals and sex offenders in lieu of jail or prison time—60-80% of AA’s members are coerced by the judicial system. The rooms are “full of vulnerable people” and data shows that AA is only effective for 5-10% of people, Richardson and various experts complain. But in spite of this, it has become the main methodology for rehabs and the go-to for the courts. I adamantly do not believe that AA is the only way to get sober, nor is it the best way for everybody. I don’t think that if AA does not work for you then you are doing it wrong. (Don’t tell my sponsor.) And I agree that the courts should offer a variety of programs, including SMART recovery, HAMS, or SOS, not just AA.

 

The 13th Step screened  and won at The Beverly Hills Film Festival in 2015.  It also screened at The Cannes Film Festival Doc Corner.

Honestly I didn’t make my film about 13 Stepping or even sexual harassment which is still l happening and the #metoo movement. It  has still not made its doors to AA culture, rehab or sober living I do think it will eventually.

I made the film because women were being murdered . Murdered by Court ordered violent offenders sent to AA , a place where there were no safety rules, no warnings that these men were being sent there. A place where people preached spirituality when in fact AA is just an unregulated support group.  AA is also a classic place for victim blaming and old fashioned cult drone slogans.

People like  to say that AA is just like any other place, a grocery store, a church. Strange thing is that no courts are ordering anyone to a grocery store , a yoga class or even church.

It would be nice if these AA members would do their own research and get honest with themselves about who is really in their meetings and that AA is not like ANYTHING else on the planet.

That AA is a Powerful Mega Institution and that we are sick and tired of the snake oil salesman approach.

Move over AA #demand choice is here.

 

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About MONICA RICHARDSON

Monica Richardson was born and raised in New York City in the most northern part of Manhattan, "Inwood" an Irish Catholic neighborhood known for its gorgeous parks, tree lined streets, local bars, Jewish delicatessens, and basketball courts. Monica went to Catholic schools, studied piano and sang, played basketball and was on the swimming team. As a teenager she transplanted to Hawaii where her Dad moved after her parents divorced. Later she moved to Los Angeles to pursue a career in acting and singing studying at Playhouse West, The Groundings, Santa Monica College and UCLA Extension Program. She worked on Movies and TV shows - sang in Japan, worked at 20th Century Fox, and LACER After Schools Program. Richardson made her first Documentary film, The 13th Step that won numerous awards and can be seen on AMAZON, Tubi and Vimeo.

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    January 21, 2020 at 6:46 PM

    from the very beginning i felt bushwhacked by AA. I asked to go to treatment for meth addiction in the early 1980s because i thought it would kill me or at least was hurting me. i thought i was going to a special psychological hospital for treatment, not some 1st century faith healing treatment from 1930s set up in an old tuberculosis camp in the center of the woods. I remember the intake nurse a man an ex alcoholic asked me if i had a problem with AA. I said no i was jusr surprised this is where they sent me. i was totally naive and actually too willing to accepted what my union healthcare offered as standard treatment. Little did i know how off course i was. Then I saw the religious steps on the wall and i remember thinking oh shit – i rebelled against Catholicism in my teens and now they are pushing religion on me all over again? but soon i was told it was all suggested and you could substitute “good orderly direction” for G.O.D. god – and i was off – to the AA double talk coercive abuse races. the rehab i attended said “a drug was a drug was a drug” but when i went home and went to AA which was 100% recommended as necessary aftercare, they told me AA was not meant for drug addicts. and there was no nearby NA meetings at that time. I probably would have relapsed anyhow but that was all the rejection bushwhacking excuse i needed. In two weeks i relapsed missed 3 days and lost my union steel workers job. it wasn’t until decades later that i learned total abstinence increases obsession and compulsion and results in more deadly binge relapses than not trying to stop at all. I tried to get my job back but this time i had to go before the union board and the feelings of being scapegoated and ashamed became overwhelming since my doctor said i had failed to even try when i asked for help after relapsing. Little did i know that AA has a 95% failure rate. It was 1981. No one i knew had studied AA or warned or criticized AA back then. And when I said AA rejected me as a member the prevailing attitude seemed to be that i should keep my head down and know better than to make it an issue out of AA’s social prejudices and i should just disquise myself as an crossed addicted alcoholic at aa meetings even though i had no experience as a hard drinker and i actually hated feeling drunk and sloppy. In a dysfunctional family you are blamed for noticing any family problems. At the rehab i attended they said feeling are not right or wrong they are just feelings. but in AA i was constantly told to be grateful and have the serenity to accept the things i could not change or have courage to change the things i can. In others words don’t be angry or sad or raise any complaints. i always believed all my feelings were healthy and that it was healthy to feel bad or grieve when get clean. I felt relentlessly abused by AA’s emotional ideas but for many years i made excuses for AA’s emotional abuse because AA says it is all suggested. But after about 5 years I started out right criticizing AA as backward as i researched the reality of Bill Wilson’s drug induced delusional spiritual awakening which inspired AA’s abusive repressive emotional ideas. My criticism made me a easy target for people who align with AA. and by 15 years I had become a serious AA critic and the easy target for AA gangs who aligned with AA not unlike the crypts and the bloods who resort to violence for disrespect. I was accused of being totally full of shit and self centered and negative and miserable etc. And i was told to shut up when discussing psychology and the healthy purpose of all emotions. And i was literally provoked to fight for saying things that were common sense that i believed other people should understand and update. i did not understand they did not want to change AA. Many people like AA for a very different reason – They don’t have to capacity to feel and respect all their emotions with out needing to take a drink. My point still stands that AA is disguised abuse that is emotionally abusive repressive and an unhealthy coping method that bushwhacks healthy people and supports ongoing emotional dysfunction. AA is unhealthy to the core – its not just a problem with the courts or 13th stepping. AA does not respect complaints which allows all these problems and more to be enabled and go on endlessly undressed. One of AA’s core spiritual principles claims that “whenever you are disturbed you are at invariably at fault.” – which obviously enables all the abuse that goes on in AA.

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